Married to a software developer

Are all software developers obsessed with their work? I made the mistake of assuming that because my boyfriend's offices were attached to our home that I would see more of him. Ha,ha. Having the office so close to home means that at 11:30 pm after a lovely dinner and two glasses of wine he can 'pop' up to the office before coming to bed. 15 minutes to a software developer is closer to an hour for the rest of us. Something about sitting down in front of a computer changes the experiential nature of time. I have that too, when I sit down to surf or write or whatever. How the hell are families s'posed to survive with more than one computer in the house to swallow all their time?